A "unicorn" is a single female that comes out to swinger parties, typically to engage in threesomes or group sex.  Girls with such an open mind are rare, hence the name "unicorn".  All you Sexxy Mofo members know there are more than a few unicorns on our site.  So, you already know where to pick up these women.  Now, what do you do with a unicorn when you have arranged for a hook-up?  It is surprising that many couples may not know how to act around and treat a special lady such as a single female that has a strong sexual appetite.  I have outlined a few simple rules/steps you can follow to ensure that you and your potential new lady friend have a great time.

So, you've exchanged some messages and want to hook up.  Before the meeting, please make sure you have voice verified and confirmed that all parties involved will be available to attend.  Sometimes, people have legitimate excuses for not showing up to a meeting (such as our monthly visitor, right ladies?), but it is not acceptable to simply cancel or flake out on someone last minute.  Make sure that you are punctual.  One gorgeous unicorn friend of mine told me that a couple showed up TWO hours late to meet up with her.  No one likes to wait around so please be respectful and show up on time or let the lady know via txt, email, phone, chat, etc., if you are delayed even 5-10 minutes.

When you meet up, spend a few minutes and talk to each other.  Discuss some fantasies and ask your unicorn friend if she has any limitations.  Listen closely, and honor every request she makes.  If she says she doesn't want to have penetrative sex, respect that.  If she wants to only play with the woman, don't try to convince her to be with the man or "move in for the kill."  It is good to offer your new friend a drink but please, do not drink excessively or try to get her drunk, stoned, high, etc.  If you see her over-drinking, it's best to take a step back and make sure that she is OK with the threesome, both physically and mentally, before moving forward.  Threesomes are no fun when you're plastered, or when someone cannot fully perform.

So, now you are all acquainted with each other and hot and horny.  What next?  Well, I usually like to put on a porno in the background and fade out the lights and light up some candles, discretely.  I have had a lot of success with getting people comfortable and ready to break out of their shell by playing a kinky game.  Be creative but not overly aggressive.  You have to let things come naturally.  Start out by breaking out the dirty dice and see how things go from there.  Once the ladies are down to their panties and bra, they will naturally begin to play.  The gentleman may want to stay back and watch for a little out of respect for the unicorn.  When she's good and ready to play with you, fella, she will let you know.

If you follow these tips and are respectful of your unicorn friend, you will have a great time with her.  And, remember to properly make your exit or excuse yourself at the end of the fun.  No one wants to have that awkward silence after the sex session.  You may want to excuse yourself by saying something like, "Well, we have plans to do x, y, z tomorrow but wanted to thank you for a great time!"  Finally, make sure your new friend is able to get home safely.

Welcome to the official blog of Sexxy Mofo!

I'm SexxyBlogger, your naughty new bloggist.  My husband and I have been in the lifestyle for nearly five years, and we love it.  Our lifestyle personals site of choice is of course, Sexxymofo.

Are you a sexxxy person looking for other sexxxy playmates?  Well, you have come to the right place!  Sexxy Mofo is an adult online community developed for the hottest people on the planet.  Our community is overflowing with sexy couples and singles waiting to hear from you.  We have developed this blog for people who are looking to spice up their sex lives.  I will be giving advice, offering help and even giving away free stuff!  We welcome you to the NEW Sexxy Mofo Blog!

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Introduction to Profiles

You may have seen some common words and phrases in profiles that you are not familiar with.  I wanted to to give you a definition of some of these words and phrases. 

Swingers-People active in the swing lifestyle.

The Lifestyle-A way of life for open-minded individuals and couples where they are open to having sexual relations with more than one person but have emotional relationships with only one person.

Polyamory-from Greek πολυ [poly, meaning many or several] and Latin amor [love]). It is the practice, desire, or acceptance of having more than one intimate sexual relationships at a time with the consent of everyone involved.  All relationships may not necessarily be of the sexual nature.

Soft Swap -Being open to having ONLY oral sex with someone other than one's partner. Often a type of swinging that new couples choose when starting out.

Full Swap-Being open to having penetrative sex with someone other than one's partner. When one couple engages in full swap sex with another couple, the couples swap partners with each other.

On-Premise Party-A party where sexual activity of any kind is allowed anywhere on the premise of the venue.

Off-Premise Party-A party where sexual activity/penetration/nudity is not allowed at the club/party, but may be arranged at a nearby location.

Cuckold-When one partner has sex with another person outside of their primary relationship for a limited number of times and the person who engages in the experience generally shares that experience with their partner after the encounter has ended if their partner is not present.  If the partner is present, he/she does not participate in the sexual activity but rather only watches without interaction. 

Same Room-Partners engage in sexual activity in the same room.

Different or Separate Room-Partners engage in sexual activities in different rooms where one cannot see what the other is doing.

Open Marriage-A marriage where the couple is not monogamous and may date or engage in sexual activity with others.

MMF-A threesome with two males and one female.

FFM-A threesome with two females and one male (very common).

Hedonists-A term used to describe people that believe the philosophy that pleasure is the most important pursuit of mankind.

NO SINGLE MALES-This should be pretty self-explanatory but isn't.  The writer of the profile is not interested in a single male.

Hall Pass-A "pass" granted from a primary partner to the other granting him/her permission to sleep outside the relationship for one time only.

DP-Double Penetration.  A sexual position where a female engages in intercourse with two male penii, concurrently.  One penis penetrates the female vaginally while the other penis penetrates her anally.  Two other similar positions include double vaginal (where both penii are inside the female's vagina) and double anal (where both penii are inside the female's anus).

Bareback-Also known as "raw".  The practice of playing without condoms.  Typically, committed swinging couples play without protection themselves and utilize protection when it comes to new partners.  We always recommend the use of condoms with new partners.  And if you choose to be active in the lifestyle, do yourself a favor and get tested regularly.

Have you experienced meeting a couple on a site such as SexxyMofo.com and arranged an offline meeting where all involved sat around for a couple of hours making small chit chat while everyone sat there basically looking around the room and at one another wondering who will be brave enough to make theproverbial first move? As many of you may know...WOW, that can be so incredibly awkward.

Hopefully, there will be at least one person in the group who will take the initative to make that all important first sexual contact. But, if not, here is your chance to be more informed and assume the role of that one person and get the party started. The best way to break the ice is to sexually arouse your partner first. Get the "ball rolling" with your own partner and once everyone starts to get a bit more warmed up, then swap partners.

Many single women who enjoy participating in the swingers lifestyle do not fancy just sitting around but would rather be more aggressive and help intiate the fun. A female joining a couple may want to simply watch them at first before becoming involved. The same scenario is adequate for a male joining a couple. Whatever is agreed upon by all involved is the best way to proceed.